My System

The (Lost) Art of English Conversation is a complete system 
for connecting with others through dialogue.

It consists of three elements—and fifteen sub-elements.

Connection Mindsets

The mindsets you maintain in conversation.

Regard

You value the other person.

Regard

You value the other person.

Empathy

You see and feel from the other person’s perspective.

Empathy

You see and feel from the other person’s perspective.

Investment

The conversation matters to you.

Investment

The conversation matters to you.

Curiosity

You want to learn from and about the other person.

Curiosity

You want to learn from and about the other person.

Humility

You are humble.

Humility

You are humble.

Responsive Listening

How you take in and respond to what is communicated.

Attention

Your full attention is on the other person.

Attention

Your full attention is on the other person.

Attunement

You take in everything the other person communicates.

Attunement

You take in everything the other person communicates.

Acknowledgement

You show the other person you’re listening.

Acknowledgement

You show the other person you’re listening.

Restraint

You don’t interrupt the other person or redirect the conversation to yourself.

Restraint

You don’t interrupt the other person or redirect the conversation to yourself.

Invitation

You invite the other person to share more.

Invitation

You invite the other person to share more.

Connection Principles

What and how you communicate.

Clarity

You communicate clearly.

Clarity

You communicate clearly.

Authenticity

You are authentic.

Authenticity

You are authentic.

Reciprocity

You talk and share as much as the conversation calls for.

Reciprocity

You talk and share as much as the conversation calls for.

Physicality

You use appropriate body language.

Physicality

You use appropriate body language.

Emotion

You express your emotions appropriately.

Emotion

You express your emotions appropriately.

My Connection Assessment, One-on-One Coaching, and Group Workshops 
help you develop all fifteen sub-elements.

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© 2026 The (Lost) Art of English Conversation. All rights reserved.

© 2026 The (Lost) Art of English Conversation. All rights reserved.