My System

The (Lost) Art of English Conversation is a system 
for connecting with others through dialogue—
three elements, fifteen sub-elements.

Connection Mindsets

Connection
Mindsets

The attitudes you hold throughout a conversation.

Regard

You value the other person.

Regard

You value the other person.

Empathy

You see and feel from the other person’s perspective.

Empathy

You see and feel from the other person’s perspective.

Investment

The conversation matters to you.

Investment

The conversation matters to you.

Curiosity

You want to learn from and about the other person.

Humility

You are humble.

Humility

You are humble.

Responsive Listening

Responsive
Listening

How you take in and respond to what is communicated.

Attention

Your full attention is on the other person.

Attention

Your full attention is on the other person.

Attunement

You pick up on tone, body language, and what’s left unsaid.

Attunement

You pick up on tone, body language, and what’s left unsaid.

Acknowledgement

You show the other person you’re listening.

Acknowledgement

You show the other person you’re listening.

Restraint

You don't interrupt or rush to fill silence.

Restraint

You don't interrupt or rush to fill silence.

Invitation

You invite the other person to share more.

Invitation

You invite the other person to share more.

Connection Principles

Connection
Principles

What and how you communicate.

Clarity

You make yourself easily understood.

Clarity

You make yourself easily understood.

Authenticity

You are authentic.

Authenticity

You are authentic.

Reciprocity

You talk and share as much as the conversation calls for.

Reciprocity

You talk and share as much as the conversation calls for.

Physicality

You use appropriate body language.

Emotion

You express your emotions appropriately.

My Assessment shows where you stand on all fifteen sub-elements. 
Coaching and Workshops develop them.

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© 2026 The (Lost) Art of English Conversation. All rights reserved.

© 2026 The (Lost) Art of English Conversation. All rights reserved.