System

The (Lost) Art of English Conversation is a proven system 
for connecting with others through dialogue—
three elements, fifteen sub-elements.

Connection Mindsets

Connection
Mindsets

The attitudes you hold throughout a conversation.

Regard

You value the other person.

Regard

You value the other person.

Empathy

You see and feel from the other person’s perspective.

Empathy

You see and feel from the other person’s perspective.

Investment

The conversation matters to you.

Investment

The conversation matters to you.

Curiosity

You want to learn from and about the other person.

Humility

You are humble.

Humility

You are humble.

Responsive Listening

Responsive
Listening

How you take in and respond to what is communicated.

Attention

Your full attention is on the other person.

Attention

Your full attention is on the other person.

Attunement

You take in more than the other person’s words.

Attunement

You take in more than the other person’s words.

Acknowledgement

You show the other person you’re listening.

Acknowledgement

You show the other person you’re listening.

Restraint

You don't interrupt or rush to fill silence.

Restraint

You don't interrupt or rush to fill silence.

Invitation

You invite the other person to share more.

Invitation

You invite the other person to share more.

Connection Principles

Connection
Principles

The guidelines for what and how you communicate.

Clarity

You make yourself easily understood.

Clarity

You make yourself easily understood.

Authenticity

What and how you communicate is genuine.

Authenticity

What and how you communicate is genuine.

Physicality

You use appropriate body language.

Physicality

You use appropriate body language.

Emotion

You express emotion appropriately.

Emotion

You express emotion appropriately.

Adaptability

You adapt your communication to fit the moment.

My Assessment shows where you stand on all fifteen sub-elements. 
Coaching and Workshops develop them.

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